When was the last time you had to cancel an appointment and you lied that you were stuck at work or you were sick instead of saying the truth which could have been you didn’t feel like going. We lie because we can’t handle the truth. We have been programmed to take everything personally and then we get offended by the truth. Hence we have decided that lying is the better alternative in dealing with situations as such. So we lie to others.

What about lying to one self? “You might ask why would I lie to myself? What benefit does that have? ” Allow me to explain. We lie to ourselves to protect ourselves or to stay in a comfort zone. So how does lying protect us? For example: your parents have been using you, you are the caregiver, the financial supporter, the go-to person etc. and you say to yourself, “they are my parents so it is okay and who else will help them?”. By justifying their actions however wrong, we protect ourselves from facing the truth. The truth can be that your parents are using you because they can. Because they are selfish or because they know you are overly responsible or that you care. People have a tendency to take advantage of those they can hence there are takers in this world. When givers give to get love, attention or to be accepted or to get approval then those are wrong reasons to give. Most children that are grown up give out of guilt or because they still seek approval that they are good children. Lacking parental love from childhood results in children doing things for them for the wrong reasons.

We all tend to live a lie. The question we need to dig within ourselves is why we are so afraid of living the truth?

Like everyone else, I have been living a lie. So what is one of my lies? My lie is that I have forgiven my father. “My truth” is such a person does not need to be forgiven. I am not a saint and do not indeed to be one hence I do not feel the need now to live by the principle of “forgive and forget” or anything along those lines of what religious scriptures convey. I just need to be honest with how I feel.  This isn’t just a blog but a glimpse through my life, my thoughts, my conditioning, and the steps I’m taking to live a more authentic life. I ask you to face the truth, yes it is scary but the effects of living a lie hinders you from living the life you deserve.

“Never be afraid to raise your voice for honesty and truth and compassion against injustice and lying and greed. If people all over the world would do this, it would change the earth.” — William Faulkner

“Integrity is telling myself the truth. And honesty is telling the truth to other people.” — Spencer Johnson