I Learnt 3 Valuable Lessons

I Learnt 3 Valuable Lessons

Whilst growing up I was never around animals and when I was, I was afraid of them. I have no idea why I was scared of them. I must have been incorrectly wired to believe that animals can hurt me so I always kept my distance. Besides, living in the city I did not have much opportunity to be around them so my lack of exposure limited me in knowing and understanding them.  Fast forward to today. I’m in love with animals. Especially in the last year. I am stunned at how little I knew about them. My ignorance got me curious to learn about the many beautiful species and so my journey began.  One of my favourite animals are dogs and specifically border collies. I have been lucky enough to get to know Lily. Lily is 4 years old and shes is a quarter labrador but she has very distinct border collie characteristics. Lily loves being around people and when she is stroked or itched, her facial expression can melt one’s heart. I know because it did mine. I am learning valuable lessons from Lily.  Lily is authentic. She waits by the stairs because she knows that we walk down the stairs and she gets attention; love. She is not embarrassed to display that side of her. It reminds me how I used to find it hard to ask for love. I masked what I wanted hence made it hard for others to know when I needed support or comfort. But if I showed what I felt then there would not be any issues in getting the love...
What a blissful weekend looks like? 

What a blissful weekend looks like? 

Have you ever gone to a place and felt like time has stopped and you’ve gone back in time? That’s how my weekend felt like. We frequently go to this place, the second hand bookstore and get some great buys. Last Saturday was no different. As we left, we got chatting with the owner, a retired Englishman. I learnt so much about him, his family, his life and we even chatted about diet and fitness. I was so intrigued that I didn’t want to leave! He reminded me about life and brought me back to me. I am an emotional person, I like simplicity, nature, snails, books and the chance to write. I like the old Hong Kong, the less developed HK where there are lesser malls and more local stores like I grew up in. That’s probably why Mui Wo and Pui O feel comforting. The simplicity is appealing. Where it is simple, there is more community, lesser competition, drama and greed. People are more content at simpler places. My day continued with more experiences of nature and simplicity that left me in awe. On Saturday night, as we were heading to the Silvermine Resort, rows of bulls marched quietly towards the beach. Their orderly manner amused me. They walked mindfully and in a row. One behind the other as if they were school children heading for assembly. It was the cutest sight! I stopped and wanted to see what they were going to do. But also I just wanted to take in this rare beauty. All the bulls found a cozy spot on the sand and as...
Birthdays and what does it mean?

Birthdays and what does it mean?

Birthdays. What does it really mean? For years I didn’t regard it to be important. If you think about it, it is just another day. Another day or another year that has passed by. And then what? Has it brought more meaning? This birthday I chose to celebrate – to honour my existence because I am grateful to be alive. Yes, it sounds silly but I am alive as a human being and it is only though this human body that I can contribute to life; make a difference, be a better me, experience calmness and tranquility, and write all about it! ? I am truly humbled by the love that has been given to me from days prior to my birthday. As it’s been shared on Facebok, it started with my senior students (17-18 years old). Yes, I know they look like 12-year olds! They surprised me with their kindness, love and a yummy cake! The day progressed with a night with my two gorgeous spiritual sisters. The love being poured was overwhelming. Today it continues with a relaxing and beachy day with the man of my dreams. This birthday, I realised how giving people are. It reminded me that love is about giving. Countless people like you have taken a moment to share your love and blessings today  which has reminded me that love is about touching other people with kindness and love. I ask the Divine to guide me in this precious life given to me to touch as many lives as I can. So when I leave, I have left this world not just being...
“I can’t imagine something really bad happening”

“I can’t imagine something really bad happening”

Recently I attended a Buddhist class and Rabten (my teacher) shared a story which shook me massively. A lady he knows in Australia who is into Buddhism and attends the Kadampa classes is going through a lot in life and he decided to check up on her. I’ll name this lady Ann to make it easier. Ann is going through chemo, she has a tumor. Her husband has a heart condition. Her kids are going through a lot. They both are aware that time is not on their side. Her husband had a very good job and they had the luxuries of life, houses in various places and 2 lovely children. When Rabten saw her recently during his visit to Australia he asked her how she was doing. She responded by saying, “I can’t imagine something really bad happening.” And so Rabten asked her to explain what she meant. She said, “I can’t imagine losing my faith, my inner peace or my Buddha.” Upon hearing that, I was speechless but also embarrassed. This lady is going through what would seem like life’s most horrific tragedies and yet she said she can’t imagine something really BAD happening. This said a lot to me. For starters, it tells me that we put so much importance on ensuring we do not lose what we hold dear that are outside of us like friends, family, possessions etc. all of which will go because nothing is permanent. Ann however is well aware of that and knows that the only thing that matters is having her faith and if she has that, she’s good. She is aware...
For Buddha’s Day of Enlightenment

For Buddha’s Day of Enlightenment

I’m often reminded in my own practice about the different states of consciousness that the mind can reach. I was doing a Sam Harris meditation with my husband a few days back and it very much stressed the idea of anatta (no self). This is a great meditation for realising that you have no self at all but it slightly ignores the different stages of consciousness that can reach towards this one point. For beginners, this would be an extremely difficult meditation as it doesn’t pin point the necessary conditions that are needed to reach the state of no-mind. In Chan Buddhism there are four states of consciousness. The first is often called “scattered mind”. This is the condition that most people are in throughout the course of their lifetime. A scattered mind clearly thinks their thoughts are real and are guided by every passion and emotion that they feel. Every mood they feel or thought they have is truth (even if some thoughts are contradictory to others they might have a few minutes later). A scattered mind is likely to make decisions based on emotions and will constantly be in the midst of a raging storm. But like a Sharknado, the storm doesn’t actually exist. One could imagine sharks of all kinds swirling on the edges of the storm but in reality NONE of these thoughts are real. Osho calls this “the state of unsanity” in which most people live every day. The second state of consciousness in Chan is “simple mind”. A person realises that their mind is the Master and seeks to address the imbalance. A...