What a blissful weekend looks like? 

What a blissful weekend looks like? 

Have you ever gone to a place and felt like time has stopped and you’ve gone back in time? That’s how my weekend felt like. We frequently go to this place, the second hand bookstore and get some great buys. Last Saturday was no different. As we left, we got chatting with the owner, a retired Englishman. I learnt so much about him, his family, his life and we even chatted about diet and fitness. I was so intrigued that I didn’t want to leave! He reminded me about life and brought me back to me. I am an emotional person, I like simplicity, nature, snails, books and the chance to write. I like the old Hong Kong, the less developed HK where there are lesser malls and more local stores like I grew up in. That’s probably why Mui Wo and Pui O feel comforting. The simplicity is appealing. Where it is simple, there is more community, lesser competition, drama and greed. People are more content at simpler places. My day continued with more experiences of nature and simplicity that left me in awe. On Saturday night, as we were heading to the Silvermine Resort, rows of bulls marched quietly towards the beach. Their orderly manner amused me. They walked mindfully and in a row. One behind the other as if they were school children heading for assembly. It was the cutest sight! I stopped and wanted to see what they were going to do. But also I just wanted to take in this rare beauty. All the bulls found a cozy spot on the sand and as...
Birthdays and what does it mean?

Birthdays and what does it mean?

Birthdays. What does it really mean? For years I didn’t regard it to be important. If you think about it, it is just another day. Another day or another year that has passed by. And then what? Has it brought more meaning? This birthday I chose to celebrate – to honour my existence because I am grateful to be alive. Yes, it sounds silly but I am alive as a human being and it is only though this human body that I can contribute to life; make a difference, be a better me, experience calmness and tranquility, and write all about it! ? I am truly humbled by the love that has been given to me from days prior to my birthday. As it’s been shared on Facebok, it started with my senior students (17-18 years old). Yes, I know they look like 12-year olds! They surprised me with their kindness, love and a yummy cake! The day progressed with a night with my two gorgeous spiritual sisters. The love being poured was overwhelming. Today it continues with a relaxing and beachy day with the man of my dreams. This birthday, I realised how giving people are. It reminded me that love is about giving. Countless people like you have taken a moment to share your love and blessings today  which has reminded me that love is about touching other people with kindness and love. I ask the Divine to guide me in this precious life given to me to touch as many lives as I can. So when I leave, I have left this world not just being...
“I can’t imagine something really bad happening”

“I can’t imagine something really bad happening”

Recently I attended a Buddhist class and Rabten (my teacher) shared a story which shook me massively. A lady he knows in Australia who is into Buddhism and attends the Kadampa classes is going through a lot in life and he decided to check up on her. I’ll name this lady Ann to make it easier. Ann is going through chemo, she has a tumor. Her husband has a heart condition. Her kids are going through a lot. They both are aware that time is not on their side. Her husband had a very good job and they had the luxuries of life, houses in various places and 2 lovely children. When Rabten saw her recently during his visit to Australia he asked her how she was doing. She responded by saying, “I can’t imagine something really bad happening.” And so Rabten asked her to explain what she meant. She said, “I can’t imagine losing my faith, my inner peace or my Buddha.” Upon hearing that, I was speechless but also embarrassed. This lady is going through what would seem like life’s most horrific tragedies and yet she said she can’t imagine something really BAD happening. This said a lot to me. For starters, it tells me that we put so much importance on ensuring we do not lose what we hold dear that are outside of us like friends, family, possessions etc. all of which will go because nothing is permanent. Ann however is well aware of that and knows that the only thing that matters is having her faith and if she has that, she’s good. She is aware...
Live Your Childhood Dream

Live Your Childhood Dream

I’m hitting 41 this year and yet I feel like a kid. I feel more alive than ever. I remember when I was in high school, I loved writing. I was one of the editors of the school newsletter and was so proud of my work even though it probably wasn’t all that great! I had the passion and the love for writing. Even though I was not fortunate enough to study writing after graduation, my first Masters was in Creative Writing and now I blog whenever time permits. As I get older I realize more of what I want to be. I say be and not do because ambition should be derived from the heart. I can recall the days and nights of writing poetry in my diary when I was in my late teens and early twenties. I did that purely because that was my way of expressing myself. Today, I still write as it eases my mind and I feel alive. We all have dreams especially when we were kids. The dreams could have been as simple as being the best person you could be or earning a million dollars or it could be being a jewellery designer. Whatever your dreams were, are they dead now or are you living it? I would like to share something Rabten, my Budhhist teacher shared recently. He said during the death meditation which is done at night, we say our byes to everyone and everything, including our dreams and the people that have done us wrong or vice versa. Would there be any regrets? Something we can ponder about. Because...
Can Death Be Something To Be Excited About?!

Can Death Be Something To Be Excited About?!

A couple of weeks back I bumped into someone I had worked with over 15 years ago. That’s a long time back. Initially I didn’t recognize her. But eventually her eyes seemed like one that I’d seen before and I said to her, “I know you!” “Are you Sarah?” We then chatted and the interesting thing is what I learnt from thereon. 15 years is a long time. I know I’m repeating myself. But it is. I believe that in that length of time, there is so much a person can achieve not only in terms of wealth but also in terms of accomplishing goals that were on their mind. This successful woman, I say successful because in the career world, she is very accomplished but it made me wonder if she did anything more than that. When I knew her back then, she looked the way she did when I saw her – from hairstyle, fashion sense, career path, lifestyle etc. Some would argue that isn’t that great that she knows herself. She knows she likes her job, she knows what clothes suit her, which hairstyle is her thing etc. However I seem to think differently. I think because we grow our choices and decisions change. So for instance, I knew her when I was in banking and I would never go back. I had a different fashion sense, hair style, confidence level, education background and the list goes on. There is so much difference in the me today from the yesteryears. Perhaps life gave me opportunities that expanded me but I do think that we all have these opportunities...
She said “I do!”

She said “I do!”

I had the honour of attending a wedding banquet of a dear friend of mine recently. Those that know me know I shy away from weddings because 1) I’m not a social butterfly though I can in some situations 2) I find weddings overly done to the point that many brides rather live just for that day than focus on the elements of what makes a good marriage. Having said that, I don’t attend a lot of weddings. This one however warmed my heart. I have known the bride for a very long time; we are undergrad buddies and I have seen her go through ups and downs. Being in the presence of her big day, her vowing to be there for her husband and vice versa through thick and thin but also witnessing them together for the first time and seeing love in their eyes got me teary. I could not have been happier for my friend that she has an amazing man by her side to share her life with. As beautiful as her wedding was, her life together with him is what matters and I know she will have a great life ahead. Marriage is beyond the wedding day. That day is special as everyone we love is celebrating it with us. The vows that we take are what we need to remember. The love that we have is what we need to hold in our hearts especially in moments of arguments and differences. We need to always remember that our partner is our best friend and not our enemy even when things aren’t rosy. Because...